1.I am a student going to 7th standard. Some kids at school call me ‘Blacky’ because of my skin color, and it makes me feel bad. How should I handle this and make them stop?

2.How can I handle peer pressure when my friends want me to change to fit in, and how do I avoid negativity?

Thank you so much for reaching out. I’m truly sorry that you’re facing this. It is absolutely horrid to comment on another individual, let alone their appearance or skin colour.

To begin with, you are not alone. Although this is an incredibly wearying situation, I know that you are capable of overcoming it. Often, bullies display such unacceptable behaviour merely to see others’ reactions. Remaining unbothered and not reacting to such names can take away their power. You may even try replying to them firmly and calmly: “Stop. That’s not funny.”

Surround yourself with supportive, accepting friends. If this continues, however, I urge you to speak to an elder, perhaps a teacher, school counsellor, or your parents. Reaching out is an act of strength, resilience, and standing up to bullying.

Finally, your skin is a beautiful, integral part of who you are. Your appearance, heart, and personality make you a remarkable individual. Affirmations to remind yourself of your fortitude are essential. Be confident, for it is your strength.

As for your second question, I deeply relate to the desire to fit in, but true friends will cherish you for your unique self. If you’re feeling pressured by your friends to change, know your worth and recognise that if they ask you to be someone you are not, you don’t have to.

Moreover, set boundaries, for those who genuinely love you will respect and support you no matter what. Keep uplifting company close to avoid pessimism. Authentic connection invariably positively impacts one’s self-esteem. Explore yourself through hobbies, music, books, or activities that leave you feeling content and hopeful.

I would like to conclude by sharing one of my favourite phrases: don’t be afraid to stand out. Indeed, it is more of a universal truth than a phrase, for being independent and bold is paramount. The only person’s acceptance you need is your own.